{"id":343,"date":"2021-07-07T09:31:39","date_gmt":"2021-07-07T02:31:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hoasen.ntc33.net\/khxh\/gender-talk-2-bat-ngo-voi-tam-ly-hoc-sinh-cap-3\/"},"modified":"2023-10-05T09:34:53","modified_gmt":"2023-10-05T02:34:53","slug":"gender-talk-2-bat-ngo-voi-tam-ly-hoc-sinh-cap-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ntc33.net\/khxh\/gender-talk-2-bat-ngo-voi-tam-ly-hoc-sinh-cap-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Gender Talk #2: B\u1ea5t ng\u1edd v\u1edbi t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc sinh c\u1ea5p 3"},"content":{"rendered":"<\/p>\n
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Gender Talk #2 l\u00e0 ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng h\u1ecdc thu\u1eadt v\u1ec1 Gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 B\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a B\u1ed9 m\u00f4n Gi\u00e1o D\u1ee5c Khai Ph\u00f3ng, Khoa KHXH, Tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Hoa Sen \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c l\u1ea7n th\u1ee9 hai v\u00e0o ng\u00e0y 14\/3\/2019. Gender Talk #2 \u0111\u00e3 thu h\u00fat s\u1ef1 tham gia c\u1ee7a sinh vi\u00ean Tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Hoa Sen, Tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc M\u1edf TPHCM, nh\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, chuy\u00ean vi\u00ean t\u00e2m l\u00fd, c\u00e1c t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c NGOs v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh.<\/p>\n

\"Gender<\/p>\n

Gender Talk\u00a0l\u00e0 ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng h\u1ecdc thu\u1eadt v\u1ec1 Gi\u1edbi v\u00e0 B\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a B\u1ed9 m\u00f4n Gi\u00e1o D\u1ee5c Khai Ph\u00f3ng, Khoa KHXH, Tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Hoa Sen.<\/p>\n

Gender Talk #2 t\u1eadp trung chia s\u1ebb hai ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1:<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 1: V\u1ecb th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong L\u00ea Tri\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh lu\u1eadt do \u00f4ng \u0110\u1ed7 H\u1ed3ng Qu\u00e2n – gi\u1ea3ng vi\u00ean t\u1ea1i Khoa XHH-CTXH-\u0110NAH, Tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc M\u1edf Tp HCM tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 2: T\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc v\u1ec1 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh cho h\u1ecdc sinh c\u1ea5p 3 do \u00f4ng Ph\u1ea1m H\u1ea3i L\u00e2m – chuy\u00ean vi\u00ean tham v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u00e1ng l\u1eadp CERM-N\u01a1i cung c\u1ea5p d\u1ecbch v\u1ee5 tham v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd cho h\u1ecdc sinh tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

\"Gender<\/p>\n

Tr\u00e1i qua ph\u1ea3i:\u00a0 \u00f4ng Ph\u1ea1m H\u1ea3i L\u00e2m, c\u00f4 Do\u00e3n Th\u1ecb Ng\u1ecdc – Gi\u1ea3ng vi\u00ean\u00a0Khoa KHXH\u00a0Tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc\u00a0Hoa Sen v\u00e0\u00a0\u00f4ng \u0110\u1ed7 H\u1ed3ng Qu\u00e2n.<\/em><\/p>\n

V\u1ecb th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong L\u00ea Tri\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh lu\u1eadt<\/strong><\/p>\n

Theo \u00f4ng \u0110\u1ed7 H\u1ed3ng Qu\u00e2n, \u00f4ng ch\u1ecdn ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 \u201cV\u1ecb th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong L\u00ea Tri\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh lu\u1eadt\u201d l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp n\u1ed1i ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a Gender Talk #1 v\u00e0 tr\u00edch l\u1ecdc c\u00e1c th\u00f4ng tin t\u1eeb Lu\u1eadn \u00e1n ti\u1ebfn s\u1ef9 c\u1ee7a Insun Yu-\u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Michigan, M\u1ef9 v\u1ec1 \u201cLu\u1eadt v\u00e0 X\u00e3 H\u1ed9i Vi\u1ec7t Nam\u201d th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 17-18. Theo \u00f4ng Qu\u00e2n, nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kho\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n gia \u0111\u00ecnh chi\u1ebfm v\u1ecb tr\u00ed t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1edbn trong B\u1ed9 L\u00ea tri\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh lu\u1eadt v\u00e0 n\u00f3 ra \u0111\u1eddi trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh Nho Gi\u00e1o c\u00f3 t\u1ea7m \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng s\u00e2u r\u1ed9ng trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. V\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3, tr\u1eadt t\u1ef1 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean lu\u1eadt ph\u00e1p Nho gi\u00e1o: Tam c\u01b0\u01a1ng-ng\u0169 th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00e0nh cho nam, tam t\u00f2ng-t\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ee9c d\u00e0nh cho n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

V\u1ec1 c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac gia \u0111\u00ecnh phong ki\u1ebfn Vi\u1ec7t Nam t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i song song hai lo\u1ea1i h\u00ecnh, gia \u0111\u00ecnh theo ki\u1ec3u Trung Hoa-bi\u1ec3u th\u1ecb uy quy\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i. V\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh theo ki\u1ec3u Vi\u1ec7t Nam th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 t\u00ednh c\u00e1 th\u1ec3 h\u00f3a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 cao. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n qua vi\u1ec7c quy\u1ec1n s\u1edf h\u1eefu \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, con c\u00e1i c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp hay ra \u1edf ri\u00eang khi b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng. Vi\u1ec7c cho ph\u00e9p con c\u00e1i ra \u1edf ri\u00eang \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ea1o l\u00fd gia \u0111\u00ecnh Nho Gi\u00e1o v\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 cao, \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi con c\u00e1i ph\u1ea3i tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u1ee5c t\u00f9ng cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i qu\u00ean m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5ng d\u01b0\u1ee1ng cha m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a v\u0103n h\u00f3a Trung Qu\u1ed1c (Yu, tr13 & 94-95).<\/p>\n

V\u1ec1 quy\u1ec1n ly h\u00f4n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n ly h\u00f4n do l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 nh\u01b0: V\u1ee3 ph\u1ea1m ph\u1ea3i ngh\u0129a tuy\u1ec7t, kh\u00f4ng con, ghen tu\u00f4ng, \u00e1c t\u1eadt, d\u00e2m \u0111\u00e3ng, kh\u00f4ng k\u00ednh cha m\u1eb9, l\u1eafm l\u1eddi, tr\u1ed9m c\u1eafp (\u0111i\u1ec1u 310). Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n ly h\u00f4n ch\u1ed3ng do l\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng g\u1ed3m: Ch\u1ed3ng xa c\u00e1ch v\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng lui t\u1edbi su\u1ed1t n\u0103m th\u00e1ng (th\u00ec v\u1ee3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p tr\u00ecnh quan s\u1edf t\u1ea1i, quan s\u1edf t\u1ea1i l\u00e0m ch\u1ee9ng th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ea5t v\u1ee3\u201d ho\u1eb7c \u201cn\u1ebfu con r\u1ec3 m\u1eafng nhi\u1ebfc cha m\u1eb9 v\u1ee3 b\u1edfi chuy\u1ec7n phi l\u00ed th\u01b0a l\u00ean, quan s\u1ebd cho ly d\u1ecb\u201d (\u0111i\u1ec1u 308, 333).<\/p>\n

V\u1ec1 quy\u1ec1n th\u1edd c\u00fang t\u1ed5 ti\u00ean v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u01a1ng ho\u1ea3, con g\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd b\u1ecb lo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb kh\u1ecfi vi\u1ec7c n\u1ed1i d\u00f5i t\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. Lu\u1eadt qui \u0111\u1ecbnh: \u201ckhi cha m\u1eb9 ch\u1ebft m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i ch\u00fac th\u01b0 th\u00ec chia t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n th\u00e0nh 20 ph\u1ea7n. Sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea5y 1\/20 t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1edd c\u00fang t\u1ed5 ti\u00ean, ph\u1ea7n c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia \u0111\u1ec1u cho c\u00e1c con b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 trai g\u00e1i (\u0110i\u1ec1u 388). \u201cNg\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 con trai tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00ec d\u00f9ng n\u00f3 cho con trai tr\u01b0\u1edfng, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 con trai tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00ec d\u00f9ng con g\u00e1i tr\u01b0\u1edfng, ru\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ea5t h\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ecfa l\u1ea5y 1\/20\u201d (\u0110i\u1ec1u 391). \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00e1c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u1edbi x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i Trung Qu\u1ed1c truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng, n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb lo\u1ea1i ra kh\u1ecfi quy\u1ec1n th\u1eeba h\u01b0\u1edfng gia t\u00e0i.<\/p>\n

V\u1ec1 ph\u00e2n chia t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n khi ly h\u00f4n, t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a ai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y gi\u1eef. T\u00e0i s\u1ea3n chung th\u00ec chia \u0111\u00f4i: 50% (ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng); 50% (ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1ea5t). Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 v\u1eabn c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n s\u1edf h\u1eefu s\u1ed1 50% t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng m\u1ea5t tr\u01b0\u1edbc. Khi l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng, s\u1ee3i d\u00e2y li\u00ean k\u1ebft gi\u1eefa con g\u00e1i v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh sinh ra kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5t \u0111i. Khi ch\u1eb3ng may ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 m\u1ea5t, t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1eabn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chuy\u1ec3n l\u1ea1i cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ebb \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ecfa ph\u1ee5ng th\u1edd, khi ly h\u00f4n v\u1ec1 l\u1ea1i nh\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ebb. Insun Yu (1990) k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef Trung Qu\u1ed1c.<\/p>\n

T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, di\u1ec5n gi\u1ea3 k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 lu\u1eadt t\u1ee5c ri\u00eang kh\u00f4ng kh\u1eaft khe v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef nh\u01b0 \u1edf Trung Qu\u1ed1c v\u00e0 n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n \u00edt nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0o th\u1eddi L\u00ea tri\u1ec1u hay d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o B\u1ed9 L\u00ea Tri\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh lu\u1eadt. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y cho th\u1ea5y B\u1ed9 lu\u1eadt n\u00e0y l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o, ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 l\u00e0m lu\u1eadt Vi\u1ec7t Nam nh\u1eb1m b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7, th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn vai tr\u00f2, quy\u1ec1n, v\u00e0 v\u1ecb th\u1ebf c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i so v\u1edbi nam gi\u1edbi trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i phong ki\u1ebfn. \u00a0<\/p>\n

\"Gender<\/p>\n

Gender Talk #2 thu h\u00fat sinh vi\u00ean h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng\u00a0tham gia.<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh cho h\u1ecdc sinh c\u1ea5p 3<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 th\u1ee9 2, \u00f4ng Ph\u1ea1m H\u1ea3i L\u00e2m chia s\u1ebb \u00f4ng l\u00e0m v\u1ec1 tham v\u1ea5n t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng nghi\u1ec7p cho h\u1ecdc sinh-sinh vi\u00ean. Khi n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi h\u1ecd th\u00ec th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ee5ng ch\u1ea1m t\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, nh\u01b0ng cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u0169ng ch\u1ea1m ph\u1ea3i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u201cquan h\u1ec7 c\u1eadp \u0111\u00f4i\u201d hay \u201ct\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c\u201d. Ngo\u00e0i nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u1eeb c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, \u00f4ng L\u00e2m c\u0169ng b\u0103n kho\u0103n tr\u0103n tr\u1edf v\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh cho con g\u00e1i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec v\u1eady, ph\u1ea7n tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng nghi\u00eang v\u1ec1 \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf hay nghi\u00eang v\u1ec1 l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng d\u01b0\u1edbi g\u00f3c \u0111\u1ed9 t\u00e2m l\u00fd.<\/p>\n

B\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t tr\u00f2 ch\u01a1i \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecfi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn kh\u00e1n gi\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh cho h\u1ecdc sinh c\u1ea5p 3. \u00d4ng m\u1eddi kh\u00e1n gi\u1ea3 tham gia s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp nh\u1eefng \u00f4 ch\u1eef v\u1ec1 \u201cm\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1eadp \u0111\u00f4i, v\u1ec1 \u201ct\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c\u201d. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1n gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e3 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp th\u1ee9 t\u1ef1 \u00f4 ch\u1eef nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n